I would describe the reaction of friends and relatives as “speechless” regarding our decision to adopt across racial lines, rather than disapproving. At that time no one could say that they knew someone who had done it and it hadn’t worked out at all, because there were very few who had “done it.”
Sarah quickly won friends wherever she went. She smiled and cooed and was generally charming. Our other children adored her and before long we decided to apply to adopt internationally, from Korea. Again, our application stated that we were very open; we just wanted a child who needed a family.
Soon thereafter we received a passport sized photo of a nine-year-old girl who had a Korean mother and a black GI father. The agency said that they had many children in the orphanage with mixed parentage but had never placed a Black-Korean child,. They asked if we would be open to accepting her because we already had one bi-racial child. We accepted immediately.
Without knowing it, we became “pioneers” in trans-racial adoption. Many more children joined our family over the years, from a variety of racial backgrounds. We didn’t set out to do anything different or special; it just happened. Families today have dozens of books and other materials to help them with the issues presented by transracial adoption. There are email groups, seminars and trainings available. Now parents have an opportunity to make a much more educated decision when considering adopting across racial lines. For our family, it was simply a matter of being a family available for a child that needed one.